CONNECT THE DOTS !!! GOD'S INSTRUCTIONS on how to raise GENERATIONS does MATTER !!
A discovery that can Change Your Family's Future
for generations!!
God, as we have come to believe, makes NO mistakes. The "Free Will" aspect to life really confuses most people, but GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES.
There are REASONS for everything God says; for every word Jesus told us; from every thought the Holy Spirit instills within us. God didn't tell us anything that we could ignore. God told us to Honor our Parents; not to commit adultery; to understand that people become as one person when they marry; that He hates Divorce; those whom He has put together - we may never tear apart.
I think I finally know why...(finally). Having lived long enough to fully see 3 generations from the beginning to the present - it is very clear that God Meant it when He said the HUMAN FAMILY unit is THE most important of all groupings of God's Creations.
Women's Magazines and books didn't emphasize the TOTAL importance of famiy...so now that I can see for myself the 'fruits' of 3 types of families in 3 generations, may I offer this information ? Travel with me over 3 generations - you will draw
your own conclusions.
From the first generation where the future Matriarch (and Patriarch) of our
SUBJECT FAMILY began, we see that very little conversation about life, goals,
responsibilities was even discussed with either future marriage partners (Family #1 for our purpose here). There was little, if any, adult participation in the lives with these future spouses. The Female's 'family' consisted of a mother who
attempted suicide 14 times before she succeeded. They moved over 50 times. There were some ballet lessons, a stab at piano instructions but no family picnics, no family involvement days (like everyone going to ball game or school event)... even months on end when the kids were left alone in their (house number ? ) to fix breakfast/lunch/dinner; she doesn't recall how they got food in, it's a blur to her and the male future spouse was raised a bit better but with an authoritarian step father (WWII POW) and passive mother who died just as these two got together;.
After eleven years of a rather predictable marriage; the Mother (now Matriarch) divorced the non-responsive father and finished raising the second generation kids herself. Her focus was on producing mannerly, successful kids and she rarely missed a baseball or football game but she was not one to meet with teachers, participate in parental school functions and still had so many issues from her own traumatic child hood - it is purely God's Miracle that she even survived. Her kids, however, were made somewhat aware of what a "family" could be as they got to see some good families first hand (growing up in a resort area that attracted
families) where their mom worked).
Interestingly enough, both kids of this marriage got married early and divorced
rather quickly. This was at a time when the Mother was finally putting her life together and was drawing closer to God. She began to realize certain aspects of "Life as it should be ". Every situation was showing her the fruitlessness of a life without GOD. The first marriages for her kids were predictable and the results of the residue trauma caused by the Matriarch's marriage and herx own childhood.
The Matriarch's prayers for her children were answered and eventually they married what she is sure will be their life-partner chosen by God.
Now in the 3rd generation, it is interesting to note that the destructive habits
from the Matriarch's life were not carried forth. Suicide was not allowed to be considered an option as a way to resolve pain; interaction with others has not been satisfactory for most of her life until this past decade after she began entrusting EVERYTHING to GOD.
This "first generation" (now long divorced couple) were no less talented or intelligent than this current (3rd) generation. The difference in their lives, however is staggering!
IF you were watching these three generations as a movie, you would be unable to miss the comparison connection between the Matriarch's relationship with GOD when she was a child and life she is now able to lead.
Vast differences between the childhoods of her children and those now their children are startling....which is why I wanted to share this. Children from a loving marriage who receive focused attention and instruction; where the FAMILY requirements take precedence over everything but GOD are like day and night from other children. They are able to succeed in massive ways without an ego. They are excellent students. They have great love and respect for each other and their parents... They have skills way beyond their age levels and are excelling in everything they attempt.
We all know that life is never a smooth ride - if it were we would not be able to develop any form of positive Character...but the contrast between this current
generation of kids in comparison to their parent's youthful years and their grand parent's youth is night and day. WHY? BECAUSE GOD has been put first; with Parental focus next.
These parents realized that there are only about 12 (ACTUAL) years where their main focus must be on the care/feeding/transporting/teaching these kids. Looking at them you see joy, and no fear. Compared with other kids in their generation who have good parents, (maybe both work, maybe Mom stays home...but there is are huge result differences in the attention focused on these other kids and the Subject ones. Difference so startling that I felt compelled to write this.
IF you want to correct your mistakes so they don't show up in future generations then Get with GOD first; Focus on today. Forgive yesterday, Trust God for tomorrow, but FOCUS on today !!
ASK YOURSELF: What will help your family the most today? (Dr's appointments? Sports participation? Real Family dinners? Good grocery shopping? Help with homework? 'Talk time' rather than TV time? and of course: PRAYER (your own personal daily prayer time and that prayer time shared with your Family).
It doesn't have to be long and drawn out...it doesn't have to be syrupy. A simply family prayer before dinner...before you all leave the house in the AM; a Q&A session once a week where by the kids can ask: "Why do bad things happen to people?" "Where did God come from?" and other such questions that every generation's kids ask but most never get answers for.
WHY bother? Because the difference between the lives of the "wolf children - raised with no family for months on end" and even the lives of the second generation with half a family and then their lives now is so startlingly different as to warrant attention. Truly it makes a difference.
So, expand that thought. Everything GOD tells us works and is true. Nothing that I can think of - that He has ever told us....fails us. THINKABOUT THAT.
The conversation you need to have with your kids or grandkids is the one about
the importance of FAMILY. The vast difference in the life quality/ the happiness of a childhood shared with loving, supportive, available, attentive yet good disciplinarians as parents ....12 years is not that much of a commitment to insure
the greater success of this next generation, is it?
NONE of these lessons learned with God should go unheralded!! It is vital that you tell your family the facts! Proving once again that if you want a great life, it's never too late and...what YOU do now and from now on WILL effect generations to come...but THEY must be told...it's no accident...it's devotion to GOD and believing what HE says is the best technique for the best life possible!! PROVING ONCE AGAIN that GOD, as our Father, provides the ultimate advice. Pass this on.
©J. Easter 2014
There are REASONS for everything God says; for every word Jesus told us; from every thought the Holy Spirit instills within us. God didn't tell us anything that we could ignore. God told us to Honor our Parents; not to commit adultery; to understand that people become as one person when they marry; that He hates Divorce; those whom He has put together - we may never tear apart.
I think I finally know why...(finally). Having lived long enough to fully see 3 generations from the beginning to the present - it is very clear that God Meant it when He said the HUMAN FAMILY unit is THE most important of all groupings of God's Creations.
- Case Study I :
Women's Magazines and books didn't emphasize the TOTAL importance of famiy...so now that I can see for myself the 'fruits' of 3 types of families in 3 generations, may I offer this information ? Travel with me over 3 generations - you will draw
your own conclusions.
From the first generation where the future Matriarch (and Patriarch) of our
SUBJECT FAMILY began, we see that very little conversation about life, goals,
responsibilities was even discussed with either future marriage partners (Family #1 for our purpose here). There was little, if any, adult participation in the lives with these future spouses. The Female's 'family' consisted of a mother who
attempted suicide 14 times before she succeeded. They moved over 50 times. There were some ballet lessons, a stab at piano instructions but no family picnics, no family involvement days (like everyone going to ball game or school event)... even months on end when the kids were left alone in their (house number ? ) to fix breakfast/lunch/dinner; she doesn't recall how they got food in, it's a blur to her and the male future spouse was raised a bit better but with an authoritarian step father (WWII POW) and passive mother who died just as these two got together;.
After eleven years of a rather predictable marriage; the Mother (now Matriarch) divorced the non-responsive father and finished raising the second generation kids herself. Her focus was on producing mannerly, successful kids and she rarely missed a baseball or football game but she was not one to meet with teachers, participate in parental school functions and still had so many issues from her own traumatic child hood - it is purely God's Miracle that she even survived. Her kids, however, were made somewhat aware of what a "family" could be as they got to see some good families first hand (growing up in a resort area that attracted
families) where their mom worked).
Interestingly enough, both kids of this marriage got married early and divorced
rather quickly. This was at a time when the Mother was finally putting her life together and was drawing closer to God. She began to realize certain aspects of "Life as it should be ". Every situation was showing her the fruitlessness of a life without GOD. The first marriages for her kids were predictable and the results of the residue trauma caused by the Matriarch's marriage and herx own childhood.
The Matriarch's prayers for her children were answered and eventually they married what she is sure will be their life-partner chosen by God.
Now in the 3rd generation, it is interesting to note that the destructive habits
from the Matriarch's life were not carried forth. Suicide was not allowed to be considered an option as a way to resolve pain; interaction with others has not been satisfactory for most of her life until this past decade after she began entrusting EVERYTHING to GOD.
This "first generation" (now long divorced couple) were no less talented or intelligent than this current (3rd) generation. The difference in their lives, however is staggering!
IF you were watching these three generations as a movie, you would be unable to miss the comparison connection between the Matriarch's relationship with GOD when she was a child and life she is now able to lead.
Vast differences between the childhoods of her children and those now their children are startling....which is why I wanted to share this. Children from a loving marriage who receive focused attention and instruction; where the FAMILY requirements take precedence over everything but GOD are like day and night from other children. They are able to succeed in massive ways without an ego. They are excellent students. They have great love and respect for each other and their parents... They have skills way beyond their age levels and are excelling in everything they attempt.
We all know that life is never a smooth ride - if it were we would not be able to develop any form of positive Character...but the contrast between this current
generation of kids in comparison to their parent's youthful years and their grand parent's youth is night and day. WHY? BECAUSE GOD has been put first; with Parental focus next.
These parents realized that there are only about 12 (ACTUAL) years where their main focus must be on the care/feeding/transporting/teaching these kids. Looking at them you see joy, and no fear. Compared with other kids in their generation who have good parents, (maybe both work, maybe Mom stays home...but there is are huge result differences in the attention focused on these other kids and the Subject ones. Difference so startling that I felt compelled to write this.
IF you want to correct your mistakes so they don't show up in future generations then Get with GOD first; Focus on today. Forgive yesterday, Trust God for tomorrow, but FOCUS on today !!
ASK YOURSELF: What will help your family the most today? (Dr's appointments? Sports participation? Real Family dinners? Good grocery shopping? Help with homework? 'Talk time' rather than TV time? and of course: PRAYER (your own personal daily prayer time and that prayer time shared with your Family).
It doesn't have to be long and drawn out...it doesn't have to be syrupy. A simply family prayer before dinner...before you all leave the house in the AM; a Q&A session once a week where by the kids can ask: "Why do bad things happen to people?" "Where did God come from?" and other such questions that every generation's kids ask but most never get answers for.
WHY bother? Because the difference between the lives of the "wolf children - raised with no family for months on end" and even the lives of the second generation with half a family and then their lives now is so startlingly different as to warrant attention. Truly it makes a difference.
So, expand that thought. Everything GOD tells us works and is true. Nothing that I can think of - that He has ever told us....fails us. THINKABOUT THAT.
The conversation you need to have with your kids or grandkids is the one about
the importance of FAMILY. The vast difference in the life quality/ the happiness of a childhood shared with loving, supportive, available, attentive yet good disciplinarians as parents ....12 years is not that much of a commitment to insure
the greater success of this next generation, is it?
NONE of these lessons learned with God should go unheralded!! It is vital that you tell your family the facts! Proving once again that if you want a great life, it's never too late and...what YOU do now and from now on WILL effect generations to come...but THEY must be told...it's no accident...it's devotion to GOD and believing what HE says is the best technique for the best life possible!! PROVING ONCE AGAIN that GOD, as our Father, provides the ultimate advice. Pass this on.
©J. Easter 2014
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